The third piece of advice in this ongoing second marriage tip series is “let go of the past.” This is a series of quick tips designed to help you in your marriage. Many marriages break up when they cannot see past all the hurt in their history. Not letting go means that we use the past as a filter in …
This is a video I created several years ago, as a short video guide to second marriage. The format involves animated character giving basic tips on making it in a second marriage, and is based on this article: Guide To Second Marriage: How to Stay Together. I warn you that they kind of “talk funny” because it is these animated characters, but I still kind of like it! Have a look and let me know what you think.
Like I said, this content is taken from my article A Guide to Second Marriage: How to Stay Together. This was one of the first articles I ever wrote online, and it still gets quite a few readers. This was an article that partly based in a desire to find some hope in my marriage, and try to see the positive things that we were doing.
Text Version of the Video
And in case you can’t listen to a video right now, or just prefer reading over watching, here are the main points made in the video:
Sometimes second marriages seem impossible, but here are four tips to help you, from a couple who have made it:
- Let go of the past. Forgive yourself, your spouse and your spouse’s ex-partner. By doing this, you can start creating better tomorrows.
- Put your spouse first. Make your spouse first and include them in your decisions. Don’t allow anyone, including your children, to disrespect them.
- This is not the Brady Bunch. Let go of the ideal and be grateful for what you have. This is real life, not the Brady Bunch.
- Be patient. It takes a long time for things to figure things out in a second marriage. Things are complicated, but be patient.
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This article is second in a series of quick tips on making it in your second marriage. The first tip was “take time for yourself.” Let’s look at tip #2 now: “Be Patient.” Don’t expect everyone to get along, and become one big happy family in a week. Or a month. Or even a year. The Brady Bunch was a cool …
Wow, life can be so stressful sometimes, can’t it? With all the complications, second marriages can be a pressure cooker for those involved. One way of helping to alleviate the pressure is to somehow, some way find time for yourself. Take some time to remember who you are, besides being a stepmom, mom, wife and partner. Do something you enjoy, even …