Are you and your spouse completely different? Do you sometimes wonder how you’re going to make it? Well, I understand, because I’m married to my opposite, too! We are different in so many ways: personality, interests and background. When we first got married, I would google “married to your opposite” into the search engine, desperate for someone that would help me in some way.
Our differences showed up every day, making it hard to understand each other, and sometimes even tolerate one another. I thought these differences were impossible to overcome but over time, I began to see them as a good thing. In fact, I began to realize that our differences were actually our strength! How is that possible? Well, marriage to someone so different than ourselves balances us out and we grow in unexpected ways, but it takes time.
In this podcast episode, I discuss more of our story. Then, we look at seven steps to take when incompatibility threatens to ruin your relationship. Here are the seven steps:
7 Steps to making being married to your opposite work
- Stop expecting that your spouse should be the same as you.
- Let go of the fantasy ideal person you think exists out there somewhere that understands everything about you.
- Focus on your similarities and strengthen them.
- Accept Your Spouse with all his differences.
- Let go of control and micromanaging.
- Find creative solutions to the places where you are different.
- Believe that your differences will eventually be your greatest strengths.
Also mentioned in this article: https://discover.hubpages.com/relationships/My-Husband-And-I-Are-Opposites
Marriage Media Mention: Kosher Lust
Scripture mentioned: Ecclesiastes 7:8: Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.
That one proverb goes that people always love the opposite person and I think it’s true. Actually, If anyone really loves someone then he/she can’t go anywhere(My personal opinion)